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	An important message to women with ADHD from Terry Matlen, MSW, author of Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD Available November 1, 2004 (see below)

After a day at the supermarket with her two children in tow and a third in a baby carrier, a woman we'll call Karen securely fastened her children into her grocery-filled car and pulled out of the parking lot.   Pedestrians gaped at the driver, hands frantically pointing to the top of the car.   Puzzled, Karen stopped the car to see what the fuss was about.   She was absolutely horrified to realize that she'd left the baby carrier--and the baby--sitting on the roof of her car.   Luckily, she retrieved her youngest and settled him in the backseat of her car thereby averting what would have been a horrible tragedy.

Fortunately, most women with AD/HD don't do things this extreme--but most any of them will tell you that it is not so far-fetched that they couldn't imagine themselves doing something like this.   Let's put it this way--it's on the continuum.

According to the prestigious Mayo Clinic, it is estimated that 7.5% of school-aged children have AD/HD.   More than 70% of these children grow up to be adults with AD/HD.   In other words, there are between 4.5 to 5.5 million women in the US alone with AD/HD (Barbaresi et al., 2002; R. Barkley, personal communication, August 18, 2004).  

Unfortunately, the great majority of these women have not been diagnosed or treated for their AD/HD.   Perhaps if Karen's AD/HD had been appropriately addressed, the vignette above might never have occurred. Tormented by the daily chores and decisions needed to survive in a world of linear thinkers, millions of AD/HD women find themselves drowning in the chaos of their non-linear lives.   Post-its and Palm Pilots serve as their daily life preservers--if they are lucky enough to know how to use them.   What comes so easily to most such as organizing papers, paying bills, cooking the family dinner, and getting to work on time can be beyond the scope of possibility for the woman with AD/HD.

I am one of those women.   I have never left one of my kids on the roof of my car or forgotten them at a shopping mall.   But like you, I have--and still do--struggle with heaps of laundry, meal preparations that cause more anxiety than gastronomic bliss, and relentless piles of papers.   

Let me share with you some of my own personal and professional journeys that may shed some light on what motivated me to put this book together.   For years I struggled with significant anxiety symptoms and was treated with medication and therapy.   I'm certain I was born anxious, or at the very least, was wired to become anxious when all the environmental pieces merged with my neurological predisposition.   Along with therapy and anxiety medication, exercise and meditation also helped alleviate some of the symptoms, but I still felt something was "off."   Anxiety couldn't explain why I was unable to talk to someone if there was the slightest noise in the background.   I shunned phone conversations because I needed to "see" the person's mouth moving in order to stay connected.   Worse, if there was a TV on even in the farthest room in the house, I couldn't hear a thing the person on the phone was saying!  

I did earn two college degrees, both in subjects dear to my heart: a B.S. in Art Education in 1975 and a M.S.W. in Clinical Social Work in 1979.   As a student, I suffered with a poor self-image, figuring it was just a fluke that I'd done so well in college (it wasn't till much later that I learned that if I focused on subjects that were of interest to me, I could do exceptionally well).   Luckily, I made some good vocational choices, though I learned in my last semester of art education studies that I wasn't cut out to be a teacher; I simply couldn't handle the chaos of a classroom.   That led to two years of fine arts courses in painting, until I realized that only a handful of painters in this country actually made a living unless they were willing to work three additional jobs.   In the end, my insatiable interest in psychology led me to enter the social work program.

Before having children, I worked with severely mentally ill adolescents in an outpatient mental health clinic.   In those days, I struggled with the overwhelming amount of paperwork but figured that was just a personality "fluke."   After all, I was never able to keep my bedroom in order as a kid, why would my office be any different?   So I plugged along, doing my best, making sure the piles were hidden in drawers and filing cabinets at the end of the day.

I left my job when my daughter Kate was born in 1985; Mackenzie followed soon after in 1988.   At first, I was thrilled that life would be easier without deadlines or masses of paperwork to contend with and knowing that I could focus all of my energy on doing what I had yearned to do my whole life: being a parent.   But I was in for a huge surprise--my life was about to get more complicated than I'd ever dreamed possible.   Even though I had a post-graduate college degree, I was incapable of remembering to do the family laundry.   Papers were in piles everywhere, and bills were often paid late.   What was wrong with me??  

In terms of AD/HD, I hit the wall when I turned 36 in 1989.   Of course, I had no idea at the time that I was struggling with AD/HD.   All I knew was that I couldn't handle the bustling household that contained two very hyperactive and impulsive children.   Finally, after a particularly stressful phone conversation in which I was unable to hear my husband on the other end while the children were playing relatively quietly at my feet, I wondered if my problems could be due to a hearing loss.   Excited, I made an appointment to see if that could be the cause of my "phone frustrations" and also my inability to follow conversations in groups, but I was shocked to find that my hearing was actually better than average.

At around the same time, my then 16-month-old daughter, Mackenzie, became perilously ill with encephalitis following a routine infant vaccination.   Luckily she survived the insult but not without significant residual damage.   Since this disease affects the lining of the brain, one of the outcomes of that devastating illness was that she developed what is known as "acquired AD/HD," which means she wasn't born with AD/HD but developed it due to the brain injury.   Along with the AD/AD, she also became mildly cognitively impaired and still struggles with speech and language disorders, learning disabilities, and more.

While learning how to help her with her severe hyperactivity, impulsivity, and distractibility (this is a child who literally did bounce off the walls), I began to read articles and books on AD/HD.   For some reason still unknown to me, I also picked up a book on adult AD/HD, and a light bulb went off in my head.   I recognized several family members in the description of how AD/HD presents in adults, and as I continued to do more research, I had another epiphany while reading about the inattentive AD/HD subtype.   My journey had begun.   I went for an evaluation and was formally diagnosed with AD/HD.

Because of the many years of treatment for my anxiety, I went through quite a long period of denial about AD/HD.   In the book, Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, Sari Solden discusses the phases many, if not all, women go though when first diagnosed with AD/HD.   For me, the denial consumed me.   But finally, I was able to move on and get the appropriate treatment and support for it.   After a number of years, I was finally able to reframe what I long had thought were character weaknesses as symptoms of AD/HD and learned how to break through the many roadblocks that had compromised my self-esteem.  

On a professional level, I can only say that the impact of learning about AD/HD was utterly transformational.   When I learned how treatable this condition was and how my own treatment had affected my life in such a positive way, I decided to take my mission "on the road" and help other women with AD/HD.   If I could become productive and successful despite my own AD/HD, I knew others could as well.

I started my private practice in 1995, offering psychotherapy solely to AD/HD adults, and a few years later, expanded my practice to include AD/HD coaching, as well.   After a number of years, it became evident that the needs of my youngest daughter required that I work at home, so in 2000 I launched ADD Consults (www.addconsults.com), an online AD/HD clinic that offers consultations, online conferences, a store, articles, a professional and coach directory, and other online resources for anyone with Internet access.   There are support groups available on my website for men and women, with one group offered weekly for women only, in which they can share their triumphs and frustrations while garnering and sharing support to all who visit the chat room.   My motivation for offering these support chats was born from my own experience early on in my own AD/HD journey, when I would attend similar chats on AOL, then later would moderate and co-lead groups for women.   I knew firsthand how helpful it was to connect with other AD/HD women.

In 1994, in an effort to further expand my knowledge and networks to better assist myself, my family, and my clients, I began attending our local CHADD (Children and Adults with AD/HD) chapter religiously until I decided it was time for me to give back in a measurable way.   As a result, I served as the coordinator from 1996 to 2002, formed its first support group for AD/HD adults, and began attending its annual conferences.   My involvement with CHADD spurred me on to attend ADDA's (Attention Deficit Disorder Association) first national conference; their focus is more on the needs of adults with AD/HD.   Going to ADDA, meeting the top AD/HD experts in the world, and connecting with hundreds of adults who also had AD/HD was a life altering experience for me.   I was so excited by what this group was doing that soon after, in 1998, I joined ADDA's board of directors and subsequently served as vice-president from 2000 until 2003; I still remain on the board today.   And in order to develop and maintain my local connections, I joined MAAAN (Michigan Adolescent/Adult ADD Network for Professionals), serve on my local school district's Parent Advisory Committee, and am a board member of our district's Friends of Different Learners, a parent advocacy group.   In addition, I have presented at local and national conferences ranging from Seattle to Norfolk (including CHADD and ADDA) and continue to do so approximately five to six times a year.   I've been interviewed numerous times on radio and by newspapers and magazines and was invited to participate in the "AD/HD Experts On Call Annual Call-in" in New York City. These wonderful opportunities have been extremely gratifying, empowering and enriching.   I strongly encourage each and every one of you to seek out such groups and get involved. Not that you have to make learning about AD/HD your life, but the more you know and the more support you can find, the more empowered you will be.

You could say that sharing information on AD/HD is my calling.   To that end, I've written numerous articles for publications such as FOCUS, (a newsletter published by ADDA), ADDitude Magazine, ADDvance, etc. and for many Web sites, including my own.   The Internet has been a tremendous vehicle for connecting with those with AD/HD.   In addition to my chat room, I developed and continue to moderate an AD/HD Professionals online mailing list to promote awareness and information for professionals, which has over 300 members worldwide.  

Add to all of these various roles the fact that I am also an accomplished oil painter (Yes, I hung on to that dream!) who has had work displayed in galleries and shows both nationally and locally (including a major museum), for over thirty years, and am also a musician who plays acoustic guitar, piano, drums, and bass.   My intent in sharing all of these accomplishments is not to toot my own horn but to give you a sense of what can be accomplished despite having AD/HD.   Yes, I still struggle on a daily basis, and sometimes I bite off more than I can chew but with the support of those around me, the benefits I've gained from receiving appropriate treatment, the help I've gotten by learning to ask, and the self-acceptance I've gained from changing my expectations for myself, I've been able to thrive and take steps to fulfill my purpose here.   You can do the same.

Free Teleconference • November 10, 2004 8:30-9:30 PM
MyADHD.com and ADDvisor.com invite you to sign up for our next free live ADHD teleconference.This free teleconference entitled Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD by Terry Matlen. Join Terry, and other s interested in adult ADHD for this interesting teleconference and hear about Terry's new book to be released November 1st. We will send you instructions a few days before the teleconference on how to join the us on November 10th.

October's Featured myADHD.com's Tools
Daily report cards and home token economy programs have been used to help children in school and at home. These programs offer a structured way to provide incentives for children to perform and they enable parents and teachers to track progress. MyADHD.com offers a number of behavioral programs in the Treatment Tools pages of the site. Below are sample tools, a Daily Report Card and Home Token Economy Program, that can be used at home or in the classroom.
Sample Daily Report Card
Sample Home Token Economy Program


Medication Chart for ADHD
Click here to view a comprehensive listing of the commonly used medications to treat ADHD in children and adults. Dosing information, main effects, adverse effects, and precautions are listed. Use this information only in collaboration with your physician.