Overcoming Roadblocks to Family Communication # 7001 |
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Check if you have a problem with this
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Wait for the other person to finish speaking | Interrupt |
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Make brief statements without judging | Lecture, sermonize |
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Talk in a neutral voice | Talk sarcastically |
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Make eye contact, acknowledge you | Look away |
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Sit in a relaxed position | Fidget, move around |
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Make brief statements, give others a chance to talk | Hog the conversation |
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Take other peoples feeling seriously | Discount feelings |
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Recognize others hurt, pain, anger | Ignores feelings of others |
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Stay focused on one issue at a time | Change the topic |
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Make tentative rather than absolute statements, deal with specifics | Overgeneralize, catastrophize, exaggerate |
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Make suggestions not demands | Give orders or commands |
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Speak to others in a respectful tone | Call names |
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Stick with the current issue | Dwell on the past |
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Stay calm and look for solutions | Threaten |
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Express your feelings to others in an appreciative way | Keep feelings inside |
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Talk in a neutral voice | Yell or scream |
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Adapted from Put Yourself in Their Shoes by Parker. Specialty Press, Inc. All rights reserved. This form may be copied for personal use by active members of myADHD.com. For further information refer to: www.myADHD.com. |